Candelabra in the Woods

It happens to every creative person, the getting lost thing. I know this. But that doesn’t make it easier.

I’m suffering from the emotional equivalent of stripped gears right now. All the energy and desire to create are still there. But try as I might, I can’t get any traction. I’m spinning, and drinking way too much Diet Coke, and I have a headache, and. . .

. . .there is no joy.

Instead, there’s a great deal of clutter. Surrounded by empty coffee mugs and more than a little bit of dust.

Everywhere I look I see partially finished projects in my workspace. There’s the bottom half of an enfantine dress, the underbodice and skirt of another Edwardian dress, Felicity’s half stitched drawers, an order form for a doll I’m not sure I even want to own much less costume, and many more, half-started-half-finished piles of dreams.

At some point, each of them excited me enough to stop working on the previous one. Yet right now, I’d rather start a forest fire in my room than touch any of them.

And don’t even get me started on the thousands of sticky notes clinging with heroic determination to these little piles. I hate them too, because they don’t match. I’ve got hot pink, and electric blue, and radioactive orange, and some shade of yellowy green that hurts my eyes so much it should be illegal.

There’s no rhyme or reason to the colors. No code. No order. It’s just pure, unadulterated chaos.

But here’s the thing.

I chose this creative life. And I’ve been living it long enough to recognize that I’ve fallen prey to fireflies. To things that blink as if they’re real light, from somewhere in the shadows, and then disappear the second you chase after them.

The way forward is to step back, far enough to see clearly again what my initial priorities were. That’s the path.

Everything else is just underbrush and poison ivy.

I was lost in the woods when I woke up this morning. I decided to share that because it’s honest. And because maybe some of you have had days just like this, and will feel better knowing it happens to everyone.

The weird, spinny, color-uncoordinated hours are just as much a part of the creative journey as the productive ones.

25 thoughts on “Lost in the Woods

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this! I have struggled so much over the last year with feeling this way–not for the first time, but for one of the longest times…. And even though I know it is normal for many of us who love to sew and move from project to project frequently, it is so important to hear our feelings articulated (and so eloquently) and affirmed. I am not sure why one feels so alone when this happens, but your reminder that all creative women experience this at times is both timely and very helpful for me. Thanks again and blessings to you!

    Mary in Kansas

    1. I hesitated to share this at first, but now I’m so glad I did. I’ve heard from a lot of women that they’ve also experienced this, and none of us should feel like we’re alone in having challenging creative days. I’m glad this was helpful to you as well!

  2. Cant even begin to express how comforting it was to have someone else who knows that feeling. I’m stunned at how beautifully you expressed it. So much that it grabbed my heart. Your work is amazing and so is your gift with the “pen.” MarieS

  3. I go in phases, because I have several broad classes of obsessions. At 72, I’m more relaxed about how I am, and I’ve learned that I’ll pick up the groove at some point. However, I’ve learned a few tricks, so here goes. Us creators tend to be “out of sight, out of mind” types. At the same time, visual clutter produces anxiety and paralysis. I box and bag the components for individual projects and get them out of sight. Aka under my bed. Then I can grab everything I need when the mood strikes. To keep projects top of mind, I’ve been using a notebook I keep on my desk for years. Lately I’ve been using bullet journals, which are a lot of fun to create. I have a section each week labeled “projects”. I don’t mind moving the same task (“finish Bru hat”) from week to week. No more sticky notes and little scraps of paper. Sometimes I’ll talk myself into doing just one step, like print the pattern. A huge help in the past year has been my Zoom sewing circle, organized by fellow addicts in my doll club. Every Wednesday for a couple of hours, we gab and sew. That keep the project momentum going. Maybe we could do the same, at least for one go?

    1. I currently have about thirty bags with all the components for a specific project. They now live in giant tubs. LOL! I’m not a disorganized person at all, I think I just need a little rest. As for the Zoom, I don’t love it – it’s not at all relaxing to me. But I’m so glad it’s been helpful for you and your sewing friends!

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